Well folks, it’s happening. My dirty 30’s are upon me! I’ll be turning 30 in a few days and if I’m being honest, I’m kind of looking forward to my 30’s. Having survived a decade of some my biggest blessings and lessons; from graduating university (all of two times!), moving to a new country in hopes of better opportunities, getting hired, fired, laid off, landing a job in my major, travelling to 3 new countries and 4 new states; marrying my college sweetheart, finally starting my blog, buying a house and meeting some amazing people along the way. Yep, it’s been quite a journey! And in between all of that, I definitely had my moments of hopelessness and mistakes! Nevertheless, I’m excited for what is shaping up to be the beginning of a new season of my life, simply because I know what’s important to me now and I have a better sense of self. Birthdays always put me in a reflective mood, and in an attempt to celebrate how far I’ve come in the last decade, here are 20 things I’ve learned in my 20’s.
I used to do this thing where I didn’t want to let people down so I would go along with things even when I didn’t exactly agree with them. In the moment it would be easier to say “yes” than to deal with peoples’ reaction then and there but I’ve realized you don’t have to accept things you are not comfortable with and no matter how hard you try, you just can’t do it all.
I spent a good portion of my twenties juggling a number of odd jobs, but I must say I don’t regret any of them because I learned so many valuable lessons that ultimately prepared me for bigger opportunities. Sometimes, the biggest life lessons come from the smallest of things.
Yes friends Koffee said it best, lol! There is never a moment when I don’t stop to think about how I use to hope and pray for the things I now have so with everything that shows up in my life, I am appreciative because there was a time when I had less.
Mistakes drive me crazy! Especially those avoidable ones, so you can imagine how much I would beat myself up any time I messed up. The truth is, we’re going to make mistakes but it’s up to us to learn from them and move on.
In the era of “influencers” it’s so easy to be swayed by everything around you but dig deep and continue to be your true authentic self! In the end your uniqueness will set you apart from everyone else.
Social media can make you feel like you are missing out if you don’t have this raging social life filled with partying and going out every other night. But as you get older you see that having a few great friends- and I’ve got those, is better than a bunch of fake ones.
I had a job once that literally made me sick! Sure the pay was really good, but the work environment was unbelievably stressful and it eventually took a major toll on my health. I’m still dealing with the effects from that stressful time. It really wasn’t worth it.
People aren’t mind readers and sometimes things can get lost in translation when you are not being explicitly clear,so the next time someone asks “what do you want?” tell them.
Start forming those habits early. Eat more veggies, up your water intake, start juicing, hit the gym or even do more walking! Your body will thank you a million times over later on!
I don’t know why, but I use to have this expectation that I needed to have my life figured out by 25. What was I thinking?! Life is neither a race nor a competition. In fact, I still have plenty of things to cross off my bucket list.
If you find yourself playing the unhealthy game of comparison then unfollow or remove that person from around you.
Well there you have it! 20 life lessons from my 20’s. Chances are if I make it to the next decade I’ll probably look back on these and have a “wtf was I thinking moment”, lol! Nevertheless, I can’t wait to see what my thirties will teach me and the type of person I will become. What are some things your 20’s taught you? Let me know down below!